(OT) My absence

[Brian Hoffman]

Team,

As you may have noticed I have not been on these boards, as frequently as I have used to be. This holds true with other boards too that I frequent. I have had a lot of personal tragedy lately.

It all seems like a blur now but I am still living it. First off, I live in Southern California. Like the rest of the USA unemployment is at an all time high. Thank god I still have my job. However both my wifes parents lost thier job. So to make things easier we moved from our condo in with them to help.

My wifes grandma also lived with us, she died 4 weeks ago from a massive heart attack. It came all of a sudden and was a shock to all. She was in great health for her age.

Now my wifes mother is having heart problems, no job= no insurance. She cannot qualify for medicare because on unemployment she makes too much money. EG 1200 dollars a month. However that wont even cover the morgage, or even begin to cover utilities.

Now my wife and I both work, and my wifes mother watches the kids. With her being in the hospital I have had to re-think baby sitting arrangments. Child care is expensive and I am so blessed other family members and friends have stepped up and helped out.

It seems that there is so much going on, working full time, going to school full time in the evenings ( I graduate with my AA in september) and all this personal drama I am just to wore out to enjoy emulation.

I have been lurking, not signing in. I just feel guilty. Im so used to contributing, something.

Matt, I'm sorry if I have seemed distant. I did get your PM. I would love to visit when you come out.

Tom and the rest of the gang. I have not abandoned you guys, it has just been really hard. I feel like I owe an explanation, so here it is.

Brian Hoffman

[iano]

Hi Brian. Very sorry to hear this. Hope things turn around for you in the future.

Cheers,

ian.

[Tempest]

Sorry to hear all of that Brian. I know it's hard, but you need to surround yourself with your friends in good times and bad. I will call you next week. I'll buy the beer.

[bkenobi]

Sorry to hear things haven't been going well for you and your family. Hopefully the worst is past and things will improve moving forward.

[fRequEnCy]

Sorry to hear that Brian! We are thankful for all you do. Hope things get better and we look forward to your return.

[chriss]

i'm sorry to hear that brian!

it seems like even with the new health bill passing there is still a lot of uncovered spots in the system! You have my sympathy, all the best for your wife and her parents!

[Tom Speirs]

As they say, life can be a bitch sometimes. Sorry to hear things are not going well.

My best to your Mum, and please dont feel you have to justify not spending time here. I count what youve done in the past not just what your doing now here. You have been and always will be a huge asset.

All the best.

[celly]

Hopefully things change for the better soon for you.

[Stu1983]

Sorry to hear this Brian, I've been lurking about lately myself, reading but not posting and noticed things weren't quite the same without you.

You've been a great help on here over the years and I really hope things start picking up for you and your family.

Stu

[Tempest]

Sorry to hear this Brian, I've been lurking about lately myself, reading but not posting and noticed things weren't quite the same without you.

+1

[headkaze]

Sorry to hear Brian hope things get better for you. No need to apologise it's water under the bridge now. Anyway family is No.1 always and hope things settle down for you so you can come back soon.